Okay well I just want to note here that I think it's normal to feel that way. When you get something special, being afraid to lose it is natural. Poly doesn't come easily to a lot of people, you're not alone. I'd never done it myself until the dream, I've always been a monogamy kind of gal. Now I'm not sure. To be fair, I didn't think I'd ever be with another person again, so I'm sort of recalibrating.
I think telling yourself you're selfish and being hard on yourself isn't going to change how you feel, it's just going to make you feel bad about the way you feel. We can't control feelings. It's better to let yourself have them and try to move past them, rather than reject them outright.
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Okay well I just want to note here that I think it's normal to feel that way. When you get something special, being afraid to lose it is natural. Poly doesn't come easily to a lot of people, you're not alone. I'd never done it myself until the dream, I've always been a monogamy kind of gal. Now I'm not sure. To be fair, I didn't think I'd ever be with another person again, so I'm sort of recalibrating.
I think telling yourself you're selfish and being hard on yourself isn't going to change how you feel, it's just going to make you feel bad about the way you feel. We can't control feelings. It's better to let yourself have them and try to move past them, rather than reject them outright.